Archive for February, 2010

Top Guns, Frady Cats & Commitment Phobes

February 28th, 2010

I bought an exercise video once, (Buns of Steel), brought it home, wrestled with the cellophane prison holding the precious contents locked inside.

Once freed, I popped it into the player and sat down to “watch” it. Yep, I sat in that beautiful buttercream colored leather overstuffed La-Z-Boy recliner rocker and watched with keen observation, the tight spandex super fit babe with a perfect hard tail “go at it” with what seemed about 30 muscle tearing motions.

My self-rationalization for the exercise preview was that I should “watch” it first to learn before trying to practice. I mean c’mon who wants to pull or strain anything well… uh…. right there?!

My dream booty was only 30-minutes-three-times-a-week away.

In honest reflection, I think I spent more time getting the DVD out of it’s store-bought protective anti-theft casing than I ever did in actually doing any of the butt remodeling exercises.

Any good consistent under achiever worth their salt realizes the value of integrating underachievement into every aspect of their life.

That being said, how many proverbial “videos” have I sat and watched in my personal and professional life? How is it that I so often in my life have had the experience of being clear about what I want…. clarity of focus and vision…yet for some reason don’t quite seem to get there?

I mean… I have books, tons of books… on the subject of…. uh…. many subjects. I love to read (I love to watch videos). And, I love to think. I love to think. Did I mention I enjoy thinking?

Mostly I like to think about what I’m going to write, yet never seem to get pen to paper.

A wise mentor of mine once said, “Writing is the doing part of thinking.” Mmmmmm…. so it’s in the doing that I have let myself down in the past.

I began looking at all the highly creative ways in which I had cleverly disguised my lack of commitment or follow-through to me. My own self. Ouch.

To thine own self be true??? The hard fact and harsh reality is that I would never attain a dream derriere… or a life of personal and professional success with this self-commitment phobia of mine. When would I say “I do” to me?

Ahhhhh…. the joys of waking up… no Folgers in this cup. Acidic and harsh on the stomach? Yep.

Being more inclined to Mary Poppins-type imaginative thinking, I go for some “sugar” to make my medicine go down. (Who’s counting spoons?)

And no, I don’t mean alcohol or alternative substances. (”Perhaps an occasional Nutella Belgian Chocolate binge, but that’s it… I swear.” *Handing the little plastic cup back to the nice lady in the white lab coat.* )

Seriously, my “sugar” is the new mercy available in the morning. It’s hope. It’s the realization of what I could have, be, or experience in my life if I would but “do” what I read in those thousand books of mine, (or watch on an occasional exercise instructional video), wink! Wink!

So, what’s the difference between a Top Gun and a Frady Cat? Commitment…

Where are you not committed to you? Are there areas in your life where you have not trusted yourself? How bad do you want those buns of steel? (Oh ya, sorry, that was for me.)

I dunno, but maybe in seeing that we disappoint ourselves… we fail us… we do it to us far more than anyone else does it to us, we can then embrace the responsibility to finally say “yes” to us.

Will you take you? … to have and to hold from this day forward?

“I do.”

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Separating the grain from the shaft…Lori Moreno & I with the Power of Social Media

February 24th, 2010

You read a few posts, you check out a couple of sites, the new “friend” looks great on paper…should you meet?

No

I have found Social Media to be a powerful tool yet discernment and wisdom is called for when considering to meet in-person with a new contact.

I am positively in favor of group meetings such as many Twitter followers do with local group Tweet-ups. To meet someone one-on-one I feel some caution should be observed to make sure you are being safe with the power of the internet to meet anyone in the world. Especially as a woman, it is essential to not make one-on-one connections before taking the time to get to know someone or meet up socially in a group setting first.

I have met the most amazing connection in a wonderful woman named, Lori Moreno. Lori and her husband were out vacationing in Arizona where I lived so we got together for a most enjoyable afternoon of sharing. Here’s our little adventure out while in Scottsdale, Arizona at Cafe Carumba. And if any of you “catch” my Seinfeld reference here….remember the episode where Elaine tries to find out for Jerry if his girlfriend’s ______ are “real” or fake? Well…uh in the making of the following video…let’s just say an “accident” happened and well….uh…. ask Lori if they’re real or not! AHAHAHA! Hey! She’s married and well… like I tell my son, accidents happen and we just move on with life…or the video!

Actually, Lori Moreno and I have been communicating via Twitter since May of last year, so we’ve been “chatting” on and off for the past 10 months. Meeting at Cafe Carumba was fantastic, and I am very grateful for the power of social media to deliver into my life such an extraordinary woman and now what I consider to be a developing friendship that may last a lifetime.

Prior to Twitter would I have met Lori? Probably not. So the power of the vehicle we call Facebook, Twitter or any social media vehicle is enormous. But with power comes responsibility and the use of wisdom.

Much love to all of you and may your connections be as rich and fulfilling as the new depth of friendships I have begun creating with Lori Moreno and many of you on both Facebook and Twitter.

Love to hear your comments and what you think! XOXO!

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After the ecstasy, the laundry, bee stings & merit badges!

February 9th, 2010

Hey!  Ever get stung?
My son, Parker, (aka P-Diddy, G, P-Man, little dude…although I think as he nears his teens the “little dude” pet name is gonna have to go!  wink! wink!  Know whatta mean???!), so Parker susatains a Grade A Bee Sting on his elbow right before leaving for the Cub Scouts picnic to qualify for his picnic merit badge… or planning family outing badge.
Hey!   Who plans a picnic outing at night, when its dark… on a school night anyway??  And in the middle of winter…with 15 boys??? Gotta love the Boy Scouts of America!  Making men out of mere boys.  (And their single mothers! Haha!  Just sayin’)
I kinda have fonder memories of Girl Scouts… I mean no nighttime-middle-of-winter-picnic merit badges.   We, as Girl Scouts of America,  were more concerned with selling boxes of wafer thin mint cookies (door-to-door in the good old days before child abductions), and making arts & crafts in deserted grade school cafeterias (bench seating was a bit firm though).
Does a good mommy allow her child to go to Cub Scouts after being stung by a killer bee?  (Parker claims it came from the killer bee strain he’d seen on Animal Planet). In all seriousness, I in my infinite Wisdom of Solomon moment, tried to alleviate his sheer panic by congratulating him on his sting.  (You can’t accuse me of NOT being creative, c’mon!)
“Parker what a blessing!  That’s so cool!!  The bee chose YOU!”  (with an “OMG! You just won the Publisher’s Clearing House Sweepstakes” kinda voice)
He stopped screaming… and looked at me as if I had been smokin’ somthing. “Mom!  How is a bee sting a good thing?!!  What’s wrong with you?!”  (…such an incredulous tone to take with his own mother!)
So here’s my little pitch….. or my “shift” on bee stings and getting stung… in the backyard or in life in general…. check out the video here:

We’ve all had bad stings.. no need to compare stingers, right?  I mean size really doesn’t matter, (k it might have been a little funnier used somewhere else….), but in the end we all have our lives, our “stuff” and its about responding more and reacting less.  Its about using our times of pain & suffering for growth and forward momentum.

Its about connecting with one another, supporting each other and in really creating more of a relationship with opportunity & success through those ’stings.’

I’d LOVE to hear what you think or feel.  You know I wanna connect with you… so please leave a comment.  Let’s be “real” together!

Much love to you…. and congratulations on your STING!

xo,

Tamara

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So glad you’re here!

February 8th, 2010

Welcome & thank you for taking the time to stop by!

I will be posting a brand new vlog (video) tomorrow and I’d be honored if you stopped back by to check it out!  Feel free to browse around the rest of my site.  Let me know if I can answer any questions for you or be of service in any way!

Looking forward to our connection!

Kindest regards,

Tamara

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